Muddle, a thought that keeps me going is "she's still here". Now, if you really were this "monster" in her eyes would she still be with you? Probably not. She's there because she chooses to be there, whether she knows it or admits it or not. Also, Muddle, lose any thought of "convincing" her of anything. It is a cheeseless tunnel for you. It can only lead to resentment and disappointment to try and convince her of anything. As you said, she will do what she wants regardless. So, continue to be the best man you can be and let the chips fall where they may. it's a tough haul but you're still pulling the cart! Hang in.
