Muddle, I think as long as you two have an agreed upon goal in going to T then that is good. It's not so good when one party is looking to use it to "save" the M while the other is looking to use it to "end" the M. Two divergent goals that don't work well together. If going to "become better parents to our son" is the agreed upon goal then you can still use T to develop better communication, show respect ...you know the rest! By changing our actions feelings can also change. Who can ever really know what will happen. Action is always better than inaction (unless you've seen me dance, of course ). I hope the T helps improve life for you two.
). I hope the T helps improve life for you two. 