By all means, if you feel the T is helping you to see where your foundation of the M problems are, proceed. Only you and your W know all the issues - so if the T is opening up your eyes to see how things are being perceived and therefore reacted upon, go with it.
Bottom line, you are the one that needs to feel that it is definitely working. It will help you, it will help your W. Together, you both can be on the same page and that does relieve a lot of tension.
