Muddle, isn't this just more of trying to understand the problem versus fixing it? Michelle argues in her book that we can analyze why we are the way we are to death but it doesn't change anything. I think it just stirs up that old emotional sh!t pile and thus your W reacts in a predictable way. Is there a way to get the therapist to help you guys with CHANGE versus analyzing why you do what you do? IMHO therapy might just be a hinderance if this is where it's headed. Just my 2 cents for whatever its worth. What do others think?
