Thanks for your empathy, WI. It's a tough place to be in. I read something the other day talking about how the dynamic of a relationship often leads to depression in on spouse. This is tricky in my situation because W has been depressed much of her life - but I must be contributing to it in some very real ways (as opposed to everything she blames me for). I am doing my best to see my part in this, and I know I have done a lot to take much off her plate as far as family responsibilities go. This might be a double edged sword though that will end up making her feel like she can't carry her own weight. I guess this is something I need to address in counseling.
It's funny - she has been going to this therapist, and this to her means that she's the one who's working on her issues. I'm quite sure that she could be telling the therapist what she wants her to hear and not actually being honest enough about her issues to really address them. On the other hand, I have no idea what they talk about, and she could be really working out deep problems. What I see as her problems could very well be our relationship problems in that the only present in her in the context of our relationship (I don't really think this is true, though).
One day at a time, one moment at a time.
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ” – Albert Einstein
