Muddle's Waters V

[MuddleThrough]

She's been going for about a year now. I'm not sure I see much improvement, but then again, I'm not really in a position to judge. She seems to take a really conservative approach to her social anxiety - telling her not to try "too much" at once, which to me seems like she's enabling my W to not do anything she doesn't feel like doing, and step out of her comfort zone only when what she wants can only be had this way. I also get the sense that she just listens and validates her immediate feelings and has little to no regard for the long term consequences of her actions. But again, I'm not really one to judge. And since my W doesn't talk to me any more, it's even more difficult to formulate an opinion.

I'm not sure how I could go about suggesting something like that. My W is so defensive, that the suggestion she has something wrong with her that might be useful working on with her therapist would not go over too well from me. I can only hope that she has told her therapist about the incidents (I have no doubt they've been spun) and that the therapist draws her own conclusions and comes to this herself.

Thanks for checking in.