Now, I still see parallels between the pre-A me and your f-ed up W (although, thank God, I was not beating anyone up!). But every time H would try to talk to me about something, I would get so defensive and blame HIM b/c he didn't SAY IT THE RIGHT WAY. Oh, I just cringe at reading these things your W says to you b/c it's so familiar. BECAUSE THERE IS NO WINNING WITH HER. I know. I was her in that area. You should have said it this way. SO. Next time you DO say it that way, and it's still wrong. You should have done this, or that, or it wasn't the right time to bring that up, or SOMETHING that deflects, deflects, deflects the blame/responsibility for the topic away from me (W).
God. It's awful. Leave her a$$, Muddle. There is NO winning or ANY way to change her mind. Her changes HAVE to come from the inside. There is NOTHING you can do/be/say. My H did/was/said all he could (well, a good bit) before he was a WAH. NOT excusing/condoning/etc. the A he had, but I don't know that anything would have changed without some serious plate tectonic shifting under my feet. Sadly.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
