Shelly - You are probably right about pulling back -- it will be tough for me, as it is so NOT my nature, but hopefully it will make H take notice. He is now gone on a trip all this week (won't be home till New Year's Day), so I will start by trying to be kid-focused when he calls this week and not make any attempt to keep conversation going beyond kid-related updates. I also won't call or TM him at all -- I will let him initiate all contacts this week. Then, I'll see how I do when he gets back in town. I'm sure he'll notice if I go a bit dim, the question is, will he care? I wish I had some time for my own interests - I am so swamped at work right now, I feel like I am drowning. I didn't work over the weekend at all, and now I am really wishing that I had carved out some time to do so -- I have so much that needs to get done here. Thanks for the input - I appreciate you keeping up with my sitch.
Cat - I forgot to mention that I asked H some questions about the financial issues I had mentioned previously and I did get satisfactory answers on those, so at least I feel better about that.
S4N - Thanks for chiming in, too. I agree -- I hate feeling like H is holding all the cards. I sometimes feel that he derives pleasure from holding this over me, and then I wonder why I even want to be with someone who could be this mean and spiteful towards me.
Sigh. Well, I had better get to work on the tons of stuff I have to do.
