Hoping For A Miracle - New Here

[nodivorceplease]

Hey lemon-

I'm glad Christmas was good. I agree that most of the things your H is complaining about really appear to not have anything to do with your R. Sounds like he's grasping for straws. In the beginning my H said things like that too but I think he was just trying to justify his actions. He said I left clothes laying around in the bedroom so I cleaned the bedroom spotless but none of those things were the real problem. I know how much it sucks to be stuck in limbo. Your right, he has to take some responsibility for the R as well and he doesn't sound willing to do that right now. Have you tried going a little dark on him??? I wonder if that would make him think. Right now he knows that you are ready and willing to do anything for him but what if he had to feel a little insecure? I would act a bit more detached and focused on your own interests and see if he comes to you. I think it's good that he is still at the house and at least called you before he purchased the motorcycle. Keep taking care of you and doing what makes you happy. I hope next Christmas finds us all in a much better place!

Shelly