Cat - Technically, yes, this fund is a joint investment. But, we had previously agreed that if we end up getting a D, he will keep certain investments (including that one) which total to equal the equity in the house, while I will keep the house and the benefit of the equity (we would split other investments/cash and would each keep our own retirement accounts). So I guess, since things are so up in the air, I have already been thinking about the fund that the checks are on as "his", not "ours", and I feel like asking will be seen as "accusatory". I don't know. At this point, I am hoping to just sort of roll with things if possible until the holidays are over, and hope that he changes his mind about how he feels about me/our M in a few months. Unless of course, he brings R/M status up on his own or starts spending more time at his apartment again (he hasn't stayed there in several weeks, though I know he's been there to pick up utility bills for the apartment).
Shelly - My H has always been really into motorcycles, and has been wanting to buy a new one for a long time, but I definitely feel like the choice to do so now has to do with wanting to find a way to make himself happy. He currently has a 1999 BMW and a 1961 BMW (he is restoring that one - it's very pretty). The one he wants would be a 2007 BMW. H got S3 a little Yamaha dirt bike last summer which S3 loves -- he has all the safety gear, don't worry -- he looks so cute zooming around on his dirt bike with training wheels!
H just called me with a question about the grocery list. Our babysitter's birthday is the same day as mine (he knows this), and while we were on the phone I asked him how much money he thought we should give her as a gift. We will see her tomorrow and then not till after her birthday, so I wanted to give her a card/gift tomorrow. We agreed on a number pretty easily. Again, though, no mention of MY birthday. I know I am making way too much of this, but it is really bugging me today.
Thanks for the birthday wishes; I think Sunday will be low key -- me, the kids and probably my parents will just go out (or maybe my mom will cook for me!).
