Journaling: Spoke with H on the phone for just a few minutes yesterday night. S3 had alot to say (typical 3 year old stuff -- very cute), and H needed to get to sleep (early flight this morning), so it left only a few minutes for me to talk with him, which was fine with me. We had a perfectly pleasant conversation. I let H know that I might need to work late tonight so that I'll get enough done to come home early tomorrow for Halloween and he was fine with that (is usually annoyed if I have to work late as it saddles him with more of the "non-fun" childcare responsibilities, AND it means that he is on his own for dinner). Was very tired this morning, and am not looking that great today, so I won't be all prettied up when he sees me tonight. Oh well.
Earlier this month H said that we would talk "later in the month" about where we stood in our R/M (I asked him after being upset by his non-reaction to our first "date" earlier this month). The month is over tomorrow and we have not talked. I have not brought R/M up and will not unless H initiates. I did bring up Thanksgiving, and acted as if we would do what we normally do (shuttle between both of our families - kind of a pain, but makes our parents happy). I am sure that he originally intended for us to be totally separated by this point, and maybe not even do Thanksgiving together as a family, so I wonder if by bringing it up I will get him thinking. That really wasn't my intent - I am just wanting to plan, as my parents plan around his parents timeframe (we go to his parents early and my parents late in the day), and my mom is a VERY advance planner.
I am not really looking forward to H being back (he's home Tuesday, Wed, Thurs, and has not yet indicated whether or not he will spend any time away at his apartment -- he usually gives me about 5 minutes notice as to when he's going to go, even though I asked him to give me 24 hours notice) -- I am starting to realize that I am under so much less stress when my only interaction with him is 10-15 minutes a day on the phone.
