Believe me, I can relate to how it is wearing you down. I am trying my best to DB and do all the things I didn't do before or enough of before. I am learning to grin and bear everything he throws at me, then I will sometimes fall apart after he leaves. I would let him stay home till time to go overseas if I were you. It's not that much time and maybe you can show him some positive things you are doing, that maybe you weren't doing before. don't ask him to move out, he'll be gone soon anyway. No R talk at all unless he initiates it. Make small talk, friendly talk about the kids, about everything except the M. I try to follow this advice myself, I sometimes slip, okay, I slip alot, but I am getting better, I hope. Good Luck and who knows what can happen in a month's time, if you really work on it, just remember, you are the one who has to work on it by yourself now, if he comes around, it will be because of your efforts to make him see a better you. L
