Well, all he** broke loose. The end result was H telling me AGAIN how unhappy he has been for years (been hearing it for 15 mos now) and his friends and family have noticed. He is unhappy with ME not everything in general, as I thought prior to all this. He leaves after Thanksgiving to live overseas for 2 years. He wants a legal separation followed by the divorce upon return. He is being KIND so that I get lifetime benefits when he can retire in 2 years. I asked him to move out but he keeps coming home. I know he wants to see the kids. I am trying hard to detach, not email at work, call,... talk! We have argued so much and I have broken all the DB rules. I don't know if it is best to appear to halt everything with him or try to be very friendly. Talking leads to arguments because he keeps telling the same sh** about loving the wrong woman, not wanting to hurt me, not loving me... I could really use some advice. I'm running out of time... I still want save this marriage but the pain of the EA and 15 mos of rollercoaster and rejection is wearing me down...
