Thanks praying for coming to "his emotional affair" to post. They are very tough to overcome, I've heard, but not impossible I've also heard. My H is luckily still living at home, and we sleep together, and are still talking civilly to each other. I still do all the things I have always done, but now I am being more loving, caring and giving him all the sex he wants. I am doing all this as part of my 180, because H said I acted like I didn't care.. He made the comment that he has a wife who just found out she loves him. I told him I have always loved him. I don't know what is going on with ow now, I am not snooping anymore, so if, and I believe he is, still seeing ow, I am not aware of it. he is coming home pretty much on time, however he leaves early for work every day. H says we never talk, however sometimes after ML, we would stay up till three o'clock am just talking, I guess it is MLC fog. He said he knows it is wrong, but will never feel remorese or say sorry for doing it, but says it has never been sexual, as ow doesn't believe in premarital sex. I am glad I wasn't eating or drinking when he told me that, as H would have been wearing what I had in my mouth! Any female who would stoop to such tactics to get somebody's H, has no morals about anything else, as far as I am concerned. Mabe four or five weeks of having him stay with you wouldn't be as bad as you think it would..Your H could see first hand all that you are doing to change, and when he does leave, he will have that to take with him. Just make it pleasant for all, and see if that helps him think about things. Not that much thinking they are doing now makes sense to anyone, but you never know. I am trying my hiney off to get things to look better in his eyes, and I can tell some difference. He doesn't glare at me anymore, thankfully he smiles more at me. When I hug him, he seems to really enjoy it most of the time. We are talking more about stuff that we used to, such as things to make the house and yard look better, he planted winter rye grass seed today, that show he wants to look at a green lawn this winter. He talked about what to plant next spring, too. So, I don't know whats going on with ow, maybe the whore is gone from his life maybe not, I just have to carry on as though she were nonexistent, I don't think about her nearly as much as I used to. Whatever you do, don't take the 30 day D!If he wants to wait 2 years, then wait 2 years. Like you said at least you will have the insurance. And the longer you let the D stay postponed, is that much longer you have to put your DB to work. Good Luck, I will come back to post again, and you come post again on mine, too. Oh, yeah, I got the constant look of rejection from H, too, but with a little time and lots of love from my part, he doesn't do that very often at all anymore.
