Two thoughts. Why are you talking to your H about the details of his A conversations? Who the hell cares what OW said, and how he replied etc. You shouldn't! If he wants to talk about repairing your M, that's one thing but discussions about his discussions with her, NO NO NO. Put and end to that. Secondly, you say you are not able to GAL because you are so consumed with the sitch. Well, the idea of GAL is to STOP you from being consumed with the sitch. If he sees you carrying on with a life, being happy (or at least faking it well) and letting go that may be something that actually draws him back. Wallowing in fear sure won't, that's fact. Believe me, he's well aware of how scared you are right now, don't let him use it against you, even unconsciously. So my suggestion is to carry on with your life and make it into something interesting for you (and hopefully him) and set some boundaries re the conversation topics, you know, say "I know your discussions with her are important to you, I respect that but they are of no interest to me, right now. Please respect that" Maybe a kick in the ass like that would have some positive effect. As always, these are just my thoughts, you do as you see fit. So sorry to find you here with the rest of us!! Hang in there.
