It sounds to me like your husband may be having a MLC. How old is he? He definetly sounds like he is running away and thinks life will be greener elsewhere. He sounds like he is being harsh on you and blaming you for his unhappiness. This OW is just a temporary bandaid. Don't file for divorce if you don't want it. If he is having a MLC there is nothing really you can do about it, it is his problem and really has nothing to do with you. Just keep on Dbusting and don't give up any hope. He may move to another country, but he may soon realize that the life he thinks he wants isn't really for him. Try not to listen to his harsh comments either. My H is going through a MLC too and has said really harsh things to. They really don't mean it, they are angry at themselves but are taking it out on you. I hope this helps a little MrsHurting
