Sounds just like a teenager doesn't it? But very typical of MLC - I don't want you, but I want to know I can come back at any time (or at least keep themselves convinced that this is true). When they do find someone........

hyper ego mode!!!

Beliefs prior to MLC - usually mean nothing. And the "right" to have an affair is just delusional rationalization - or justification for short.

I'll try to check out your thread (been getting busy at work - where I do most of my board crawling).

This has been a turning point to a better M.
In 25 years will either of us will remember much about this time?
Because in 50 years neither of us will remember much of anything.