Thank you snodderly, I have read many of your posts (and quoted many) also - and I think it is wonderful that you have hung around all this time to keep helping others in need.
The conections still continue to grow deeper, which I didn't think was going to be possible - I know our M was not this good before all of this happened.
I will say again "This has been a great life changing experience - that has turned out wonderfully. Don't ever ask me to do it again"
This has been a turning point to a better M. In 25 years will either of us will remember much about this time? Because in 50 years neither of us will remember much of anything.