I have not been over here for a while - once a life/marriage rebuilds, your time fills back up with that. For now I read - but post much less then even before on all the boards.
Our connection has continued to grow deeper over the last couple of months. I did not think this could happen, things were very good - but continue to get even better post MLC, and yes allot of this is because of my growth during my W’s journey. As our spouses go on their MLC journey – I think it’s very important that we go on a journey of discovery to ourselves and to marriage and relationships. Men and Women – there is allot you did not learn in High School, don’t waste this time waiting and not learning, hit the Christian book store and learn how M’s and R’s are supposed to be.
I am pushing more trying to find out what was going through her mind at various times. So far - still allot of "I don't know" and honestly, I don't think she does know. One MLC'er recently referred to MLC as "the Grand Daddy of all depressions" - and from her point of view it probably was, but helping a person in MLC isn't the same help needed as that for a person in standard depression.
Still the best advice – give them time & space, but hold them accountable for their actions – they are confused but still adults. Go on the journey to you and learn what you don’t know about R’s (you might be surprised at how little your friends at the beauty parlor or barber shop actually know – and how unhappy most of them really are).
Take care all.
P.S. Holly06 – Smuff re-posted that link here on DB, the reason you couldn’t see it was it’s behind a password protected forum at 4060.
This has been a turning point to a better M. In 25 years will either of us will remember much about this time? Because in 50 years neither of us will remember much of anything.
