Do LD's want their spouse to become LD?

[Bear]

CeMar,
Paraphrasing Underdog from another thread...here is a more pc way of saying what I said before. My goal here is not to insult you but to wake you up to the fact that this is quite possibly how your W is feeling. It won't fix things for you but it may just help you to understand a little better why she is LD in your M. Consider for a moment the possibility that she is not LD just to hurt or punish you but rather because she feels hurt or disrespected or disliked by you and can't get around that in order to express desire for you.

Every time I read CeMar's laundry list of complaints about his W, I think that he's doing himself, her and their M a grave disservice by continuing to make his laments about her.
No libido could make me want to have sex with someone who resented me or felt that I was "less than". There were many times when I'd have sex with Mr. W. because we had both gone too long without any physical affection. But it would pain me when we weren't getting along and I couldn't feel that connection between us. I always felt that there was more to life than having sex with a guy who seemed to hate me much of the time.

Bear