Quote: No if I understand this, then the way to get more in a relationship is to want less. So if I make it clear that I do NOT want my wife, then she will give me more quality sex than I can handle. Do women literally want men that don't want them? My head is starting to hurt.
CeMar, let me take a crack at this one.
I think women want men to want them. I also think that women don't find "wanting behavior" very attractive.
I think women want to be pursued. I even think that women want to know that their man wants to pursue them, all of the time. I just think that women don't want to actually BE pursued all of the time, at least not in a way that's "needy" or "grabby".
I think that LD women want to be considered sexy-Y; but I also think that they don't want to have to have actual SEX with their HD partners very often at all -- just enough to keep the relationship reasonably healthy, and enough so that they feel they are being a "good wife".
Women are full of paradoxes, CeMar, and I don't profess to understand it any more than you do. I could add "Women want to be with 'nice guys', but then they are admittedly attracted to the 'bad boys'" to the discussion, but that's a WHOOOOOOLLLE other topic for another day. I just try to laugh about a lot of it (if I didnt' laugh, I'd cry) and say things like "This is just proof that God has a sense of humor", that He made us SO different, but then expects us to be together.
