Quote: If LD people want to be desired, then why do they believe it is ok for THEM to not desire. I have suspected that most (not all) LD's actually LIKE the feeling of being desired, and yet they do NOT give this feeling back (and they usually know it). Now people on these boards more or less tell us HD folks to stop requiring the desire part, and yet don't MOST people want DESIRE, even the LD people? We are chastisied for wanting desire, but is it not human nature for virtually ALL people to want to be sexually desirous to someone else?
CeMar, I have put this in a slightly different way on this board in the recent past:
I say, "I think my wife wants to be considered sexy-Y, and even sexy by ME. She just doesn't want to have to have any ACTUAL SEX with me."
I do see, in a LOT of relationships, including the ones described right here on this message board, this weird paradox whereby the LD/ND'ers want to be desired; they just don't want to have to do anything in return. It's a "But don't you think I'm sexy anymore?" , coupled with a "But why do you ALWAYS want sex , pervert husband-o'-mine?!"
I'm generalizing, but I do see that dynamic is at play in a lot of our libido-challenged relationships.
