(Chrome) Another reality is that this is an anonymous message board, and if someone chooses to post here, they should realize that the quality of the responses will tend to be proportional to the quality of the information they post.
I'm not too worried about CeMar's hurt feelings.
Sometimes a well-phrased insult is what it takes to break someone out of a self-defeat cycle. Good sports coaches and military commanders are masters at that technique.
Motivational methods that work in a structured hierarchy often don't translate well to a context with more equilibrium, like a relationship or an anonymous message board.
But so far nothing has worked with CeMar. Or maybe it has and he just refuses to talk about it.
Then why insult him? Who benefits?
I can say that most of the comments directed at CeMar, even the insulting ones, do feel to me as if they are coming from a place of caring, of wanting to help him.
Husbands can be very supplicating and eager-to-please toward their wives from a place of caring and wanting to help, but if it isn't effective should it be encouraged?
The rest tend to come from frustration.
If people get so frustrated by an anonymous internet poster they know nothing about that they become insulting, imagine what real life has in store for them. This is a good place to practice.
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