"The reality is you don't know CeMar at all and have no idea how he treats his wife or how she treats him."
Another reality is that this is an anonymous message board, and if someone chooses to post here, they should realize that the quality of the responses will tend to be proportional to the quality of the information they post. Belive me, I know all about that. The fact of the matter is that CeMar has been posting pretty much the same thing for 3 years now.
Although we don't know him or his wife personally, if we assume that he isn't a troll, we can make the reasonable assumption that little to no progress has been made in his marriage in those three years, despite the offer of help from many people here. People have tried being extremely nice, and others have been extremely blunt (to the point of being insulting).
Sometimes a well-phrased insult is what it takes to break someone out of a self-defeat cycle. Good sports coaches and military commanders are masters at that technique. Getting a person out of this "woe is me" mentality by forcing them to defend themselves against an insult can work. But so far nothing has worked with CeMar. Or maybe it has and he just refuses to talk about it.
I can say that most of the comments directed at CeMar, even the insulting ones, do feel to me as if they are coming from a place of caring, of wanting to help him. The rest tend to come from frustration.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
