Do LD's want their spouse to become LD?

[Burgbud]

(Bear) The claws don't come out too often but sometimes you just have to be blunt.

Being blunt is often a good idea. Being insulting isn't. The reality is you don't know CeMar at all and have no idea how he treats his wife or how she treats him.

Five keys to right speech

"Monks, a statement endowed with five factors is well-spoken, not ill-spoken. It is blameless & unfaulted by knowledgeable people. Which five?

"It is spoken at the right time. It is spoken in truth. It is spoken affectionately. It is spoken beneficially. It is spoken with a mind of good-will."

I don't always practice right speech myself (just ask MrsNOP). When I don't, I've found it beneficial not to try fooling myself into thinking I have.

Having said that, the rest of your post was very illuminating. Thank you.