I am sorry to hear about your Grandmother passing on.
Cemar Im draging this comment here, so Mrs.Nop and Choc can continue their convo in GGB's thread.
Quote: How can you stop your sex drive? THere are guys on here that have actually looked to drugs to try and kill it. I have no clue as to how you can stop it. It is there at all times. Heck, if you are around females, how can you NOT desire. I work hard to NOT desire other women and keep it focused on my wife. Sex, affection, it is freaking EVERYWHERE. It's at work, it's at the mall, it's in the media, it's at the rec center, it's on the street, it's at the kids soccer and football games. And maybe the worst place of all, CHURCH! Ladies dressed to the hilt, some very sexily, and couples sitting VERY close togehter. How can you NOT think about sex.
I never said I stopped my sex drive. It was killed by pysch issues during x's A temporarily (4 months?- probably oxytocin withdrawals, and cortisol spikes. my T levels where nearly out of normal limits and I had incredible aggression. Maintaining humourous confidance was allmost impossible, and made me really incongruent. ok it ended up being impossible...bleh). I would never consider denying, or even think of trying to kill my sex drive.
I lost my desire for x a couple times during our M, but I still had my sex drive. We had a always say yes policy, but she could tell the first time that my desire was down, even though I kept having sex with her. It was the first time I told her No, and the second of 2 times I have been impotent in my life -so far-knock on woood (haha), which is why I said no...couldnt get it up for her. no desire for her.
So you are complaining about no desire and then stating how it is so easy. I believe you. Its not for me though. Im asking you to explain to me how to turn desire back on. Not my sex drive. Your going to have to stick with one phrase/terminology here, or goal, otherwise I get confused, unless your point is just to go in circles. Your welcome to do that, but it doesnt assist me in recovering my desire. Im not asking about a sex drive, I have that allready.
Your W has a sex drive too, or she wouldnt immerse herself in those mystery/romance novels.
I am surrounded by visually attractive females, that doesnt do anything for my desire. You are right sex is everywhere. What does that have to do with desire? Youve allready said they are not the same, and just like me, its not good enough for you either, as your wife will have sex with you whenever you want.
As for men wanting to chemically kill their sex drive... as I have said before its simply a matter of administering a shot of Depo-Prevera to themselves and they will have no sex drive for a good 3 months. Anyone who truly wants to do this can figure out how to accomplish this, anyone else is just whining. Do it or shut up about it.
I dont want to kill my sex drive, I embrace and appreciate my masculinity. I want to know how to have desire for whom I am having sex with. Please explain.
