It sounds like you and wife are doing the hard work. Congratulations on the effort. Since you have obviously researched the demands of recovery, I assume you know that it is going to take a couple of years, and that she can never contact the other man again.
I applaud your efforts.
Be careful with the quota without schedule. It can breed resentment and uncertainty. Scheduling your time together, just like a date, is very important as the both of you relearn to love each other in the right way, dumping the old unhealthy relations in the process. A schedule takes away much of the uncertainty of when, and leaves you two only the task of working out the 'how, why, and what'.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
