Scheduling: A Help or a Hindrance?

[toughlover]

Hey NOP. Thanks for the input. I talked this over with the W yesterday (before seeing your post) and she seemed to really like the new plan. Maybe we'll try it but if it seems to cause problems go back to the schedule?

The schedule's starting to be a problem for us lately because of her condition. Her genital h. is really vicious and she's having almost constant outbreaks right now, so that's taking not only a huge toll on her physically, but mentally as well. It also means that she's just plain out of commission on many of our scheduled days, and she ends up feeling bad about constantly telling me "today's not a good day."

So one positive I see about this new approach is that we can work this in during times when she's not having outbreaks, and hopefully reduce her stress which I think is one reason why her outbreaks are so frequent.

The whole thing had her reduced to tears this morning and I felt so bad for her. She cried and told me how sorry she was that she not only did this but that it affected me not only physically but was just something else huge to deal with. She pointed out that she may deserve it but I didn't. And she's just tired of the constant discomfort. While she brought it on herself, it breaks my heart nonetheless.

So sex really is going to be off the table (heh, no pun intended) for a while now. She's going back to her doctor to work on treating this better.