...I suffer from this anxiety over either reading too much into insignificant things, or categorize something as insignificant when it's really not.

One of the things that has plagued me/us is my W's confessed lack of attraction and desire for me. In other words, mainly when we have sex, for her, it's much like how I feel when I play Monopoly...I do it because she likes it, but I don't care much for the game although I have a reasonably fun time playing it just because I choose to get out of it what I can. But it's not like the enjoyment I'd get out of playing a game I really enjoy.

Well, I don't know if things are better in that area or not. I have noticed that when we "quick kiss" goodbye/hello she seems (I think) to be lingering more after I pull away, sort of seeming to want more. And when she kisses me hello/goodbye, very often it lasts much longer than before, which was a quick peck.

Is that significant or am I probably just imagining things?

I know I sound like a greenhorn, but it's been many, many years since I've had to start from scratch, which is what this seems like, that I seem to have lost my knack for picking up on this stuff...


You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'