Quote: I handled this by detaching, by not tying my personal contentment to what I'm getting from my W at any given time, and by being the husband and father I want to, and am called to, be. All the DB stuff really, though I'm a Christian and I see most problems as spiritual problems, so the first step in our new life involved me getting right with God. She followed soon thereafter, but I did it for me.
That does work well. Then the other comes around and you want just a bit more, get a little closer. Then you have fallen into the other's uncomfort zone. You are not healed enough yet to stand an assult so, when the assult comes, you retaliate and you are back to square one or even on the minus side of the scale. *sigh*
You seem to have a handle on it tho, I watch enviously and hope to learn.
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
