I understand that, it's probably at least partially true, but that in itself is kind of a 180 (though I realize not an ideal one)
Yeah. Overcorrecting. It takes pratice and effort to find the correct balance. Did you ever determine what was causing your 'angerholism'? Was there some stressor? or was it just familiarity? This is all rhetorical, but if it was familiarity, then it can be fairly easy to deal with once you become aware. If it was a stressor, did you locate it and implement some personal and self serving boundaries to handle it and improve your well being?
Things were going great for a while because I was detached and doing my DB thing, she was enjoying it but keeping her distance, and just about the time I got really comfortable with that, and expected we'd be there for months, she got a little closer on her own
Doesnt it feel great when you are just doing your own thing and realize, thats enough for them to love us? I think it feels fantastic. Makes me want to do my own thing all the time.
I mean, it (resentment) came out of nowhere. Yeah. tell me about it. Dont let it defeat you. I lost to it, which is why I think Im so vigilant for it. Express yourself honestly, but dont let your self express you dishonestly. Hope that was clear as mud.
