Quote: There is nothing in your posts so far that I can point at specifically, but you -understandably- give off an air of ... uncertainty and placating.
You're right about this...I experience a good deal of anxiousness. I realize a few have mentioned that I sound like I'm placating her, and I understand that, it's probably at least partially true, but that in itself is kind of a 180 (though I realize not an ideal one) as in the "old days" pre-July 2006, all I ever did was complain, criticize, and boss. To some extent I've gone a little too far in the other direction in order to be gentle, kind, and compassionate. For me, a recovering "angerholic," it takes me a while to learn the difference, and put into practice, strength, leadership, and decisivieness that isn't unkind and inconsiderate. I realize that's probably a no-brainer for some, but went way overboard in the wrong direction for years.
Quote: Cherish her, listen to her, but dont give her a 'princess pass' because she stuck around.
Good point. Thanks.
Quote: The better things get, the more resentment you *may* feel start to bubble up. Keep an eye open for them.
Yeah, you pretty much nailed that one. Things were going great for a while because I was detached and doing my DB thing, she was enjoying it but keeping her distance, and just about the time I got really comfortable with that, and expected we'd be there for months, she got a little closer on her own and all of a sudden things were even better than they'd been since, probably, our first year of marriage yet I began feeling just like I did the week she dropped the bomb. I mean, it came out of nowhere.
So, thanks for the 2x4s folks. They are much appreciated and not wasted on me, I guarantee.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
