TL... I have to say I really admire how you and your W are working together to heal and improve your marriage. Stay the course and you will see results, not when you expect to, of course...but one day you will wake up and just feel happier about things. The love and respect will come back and forth a little easier, and it will trickle into the bedroom with a glance, a touch, a gesture. You can't control when this will happen, yet I am convinced if you and W continue to put this level of work in, you will begin to feel desire from her. BTW, my H and I also agreed upon a sex schedule for awhile; we stopped because the need wasn't there anymore, there was enough trust built up to let it go.
Your W's response makes a lot of sense to me...I hope she continues in her commitment to the marriage...remember, too, that setbacks occur as you are making progress...it's a natural inclination to pull back. Perhaps she was feeling some increased intimacy and decided( subconciously) to allow for more chaos in her work schedule...or maybe she just wants some extra cash,lol.
Anyway, it certainly sounds like you have learned from mistakes in the past and I hope you get this chance to make things better!
