Tried to discuss this last night. Didn't go well. She thought I was complaining (wasn't).
We ended up on the issue of intimacy vs. sex. Her pronouncement:
"A more intimate and romantic sex life is not going to be affected one way or another by our schedule, whether we schedule it or not, whether it's all just mainly physical or not. A more intimate sex life is going to develop naturally from the time we spend together, helping each other, going out together, etc. The purpose of the schedule is to eliminate the uncertainty, anxiety, and to meet your higher sex drive. All the other stuff will take time to get to where we want to be. We're getting there, but we're not there yet."
Her words, more or less. But she really doesn't like talking about this at all. According to her, we've got the schedule, it's working for us, we have to adjust occasionally, but she is pretty cut and dried, straightforward about this: it's going to take time so why talk about it at all.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
