Quote: Scheduled sex is basically sex without desire.
Not for me it ain't! I pretty much desire her 24/7...sometimes it's just a simmer, and sometimes the pot's boiling over LOL!
For my wife it IS sex without desire, but it would be that way whether we scheduled it or not.
Quote: In the long run it normally fails, because both parties will eventually resent it.
Is this a "factoid" or an opinion? I would tend to agree. As a permanent solution, I don't think much of it. As a stage in the process of getting to where we want to be, though, I think it has possibilities. Of course, we've only been at this for a few weeks now. But it's been a pretty good few weeks.
If we don't move beyond this over the next few months, however, I will probably be disappointed, but that will be more because our marriage has stagnated than anything else.
I think if you want to be desired, you first have to be desirable. I wasn't, for many reasons, for a long time in our marriage. I am now, and my W admits, objectively, that I am...knows she could very easily be facing plenty of competition LOL
What we think we're doing is creating the best environment we can for everything to grow. I ain't complainin'.
Last edited by toughlover; 10/26/0607:30 PM.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
