How do you know this about scheduled sex? (In the long run it normally fails, because both parties will eventually resent it.)
It's had it's usefulness in my M, and in other people's as well (with LD women in them). You are assuming that it always leads to resentment....my H didn't resent it, others haven't resented it. It's all in how you approach it to begin with. If you approach it with the outlook you already have about it....of course it will lead to resentment....YOU will already be the one resenting it. If it's approached with an open mind however it often takes the pressure off of both spouses.
Personally CeMar, I don't think even YOU know precisely what it is that you want. You say you want your W to "desire" you...well desire takes many forms for many different people. What you want "I think" is for her to desire in the exact way that you desire....however that is. That is very unlikely to happen plain and simple....especially if you refuse to take steps to get to that point. I am assuming too that you haven't taken steps, because if you have I don't know what they are.
CeMar...you can't get from where you are in your M right now to the desire you want her to show you without doing the work to get there on your end....YOU must do SOMETHING, you must try different things, different approaches. YOU must be willing to be vulnerable enough to really open up with your W and be honest with her. You must take the steps to get to the end result. Don't you dare ask me for the steps either....you've been given them, time and time again by many people on here.
