GEL, Thanks. The thing about it is that I always knew that stuff was important to my W, I just thought it was because she was very selfish and self-centered, which she was at one time...probably still tends to be, but she's matured a lot, and we were both on the young side when we met.

And I surprised my wife at home with her favorite soup from her favorite restaurant one day at lunchtime as well...although it's right on my way home from the office, which is less than five mins from my house, so no sacrificial driving involved

Corri,

Thanks. I will probably take you up on that. Right now she's really wanting to be pretty casual about the sex and not talk too much about it. I, of course, WANTED to talk about it so I had to learn to back off and give it some time before it became something she was really comfortable getting into and exploring. I think she's really liking the stuff I'm doing now outside the bedroom, and just keeping things relaxed and light and fun seems to be what she wants.

So, for the time being, it looks like I'm going to have to just bite the bullet and endure a steady diet of casual sex with my wife in order to save my marriage

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'