You know, it's weird. If a person is not required to participate and is treated like too much of a princess, it actually does the opposite and makes them LESS invested in the R. Having to physically and mentally make overtures to another person...do nice things, be considerate, make time, arrange dates, etc etc, changes our feelings. It's the ol feelings-follow-behavior stuff.
But that really wasn't your question.
For me, I couldn't be successful with a schedule (even though I am HD enough to once have warranted a "are you a sex addict" question from a fellow poster) unless we were hittin on all cylinders. Meaning, the relationship was full of a sufficient amount of quality time and instances that reinforced feelings of 'coupleness'. If she is satisfied with the R in these areas, then I see no reason not to try a schedule and attend to your needs. I suppose what I am trying to say is that requiring a whole romantic partner--instead of just a willing wife on the XXX days--might work better at creating the type of R you are looking for. Things like saying "Come here and give me a kiss" (as opposed to you always going to her) or "You know what I'd love sometime? For you to cook me a candlelight dinner" etc. Ok, I know my suggestions are girly and if my H were to read em, he'd bust out laughing at how little I understand the male brain. What I am *saying* though, is to make requests of her and lead her towards an R where you both participate. Anyway, good luck with the schedule.
