Quote: Had my wife not given me the space i needed I never would have come home.she never asked questions and she really did move on with her life.I began to feel like the LBS because it seemed that life was going on all around me and I was still stuck in my own world.
Excellent observation!!!! One way I dealt with my sadness when my husband left, was I made the house much more comfortable and cheerful for me and the kids. I'd put cut flowers from my garden out more often (I've always done this, but I started doing it more often), I would have candles in the evenings for dinner and afterwards, and I'd make plans to take the kids to events, fairs, etc... every weekend. I tried to keep us all busy. I think eventually my husband felt kind of left out and like his family was having a great life without him. Also, I think he missed living in a comfortable, clean, "homey" house.
Finally Free,
One more idea for you if you haven't already done this... take a little extra time and read some books about relationships and women. You may get some new ideas that will help you convey love and appreciation to you wife. Although it already sounds like you're doing a good job. These things take time.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
