Finally free I am not in peicing but my h did come about two years ago after 6 months away. I did want answers then and I asked too many questions. I know what I say to many is to wait and the mlcer will tell you when they are ready to open up. I know now if my h returns again I would want answers but I would not hold him down and make him answer. I would let him answer at his own pace but I don't think I would let him fully back into my life until I had the answers.
Having said that though it is not the gory details I want answers for. It is really the why and how he felt (is feeling). Mostly I would not want the same things to happen again. I think if he is ready to answer these things then it would help both of us to heal.
If you are comfortable with answering the questions your w may have then maybe ask her if she has any and be as honest as possible with your answers. No sugar coating.
