You have had a tough year, Rocco, but now it's time to grieve and then do what you need to do to help yourself. Your kids seeing and talking to a DYFS person, probably did them no lasting harm, they got stuff out in the open, and that can only help them. Your wife getting overwhelmed with stuff that she brings on herself, is possibly a coping mechanism for her. If she can do lots of projects and stay very busy, she doesn't have to think so much about all the problems. You may think it's wrong, but I bet she thinks your way of coping is wrong, too. One thing you could do in a few days or so, Thank your W for being there for you when your nephew died. Show her and tell her you appreciate that. And remember don't forgive her and then take the forgiveness back. Would God do that? Good Luck, L
