Thank you for your kind words. Its been a tough year. My aunt, also my godmother, died last October, my uncle died last month, but loosing a child is really tough. I learned one thing and that is to cherish the precious gift of a child that God gives you. Children should be told at least once a day that you love them. If parents don't do that, they fail as parents. Children should not be criticized for their mistakes or failures, rather, they should be loved and supported and accepted for who they are, just as they are. It saddens me that I had put my children through a DYFS person. That was very hard on them, and I am responsible for it and have to live with it now. I got very bad advice to do what I did, and I should have thought with my heart, not my mind. I know that is in the past, I have to work on the future. My W is overwehelmed with a lot on her shoulders. A lot of times she does it to herself. Why is it so important to work on one project after another at home, rather then 1st work on your own relationship? I think that's wrong. Only time will tell. Perhaps, in praying to my nephew now, maybe he will intercede for me and ask God to allow my W to have a forgiving heart. I don't think we can move forward without forgivness and forgetting the past. My youngest sister still blames my parents for the way things are, and she is 39 years old. Yet my other sister, who just lost her son, isn't complaining. She is more then devestated, yes, but who wouldn't be. I hope her and her husband seek somebody to talk to for grief counseling. Rocco
