Gosh, you went through hell. No, you were not harsh at all and I needed to hear that. I am a very negative person who does see the glass as half-empty. It is very difficult and I probably should have gotten help long ago too. It will be an on-going battle for me and I MUST STOP taking things so personaly when people push my buttons too.
I am very insecure and my wife is too, but I didn't realize it. She is a strong woman and is very talented with doing things around our home. She can do just about anything to fix up problems in our house and she was brought up that way. I wasn't and really don't have an interest. However, if I learned, I would be able to help more, but my fear of my W if I make a mistake is also an issue for me.
There is no boundries in my current situation between us. I don't think we told each other how much we love each other for years. You are making me think more and more about my bad choices that I have made and done to my W. I need to toughen up and let things slide and not take her yelling at me so personal. Probably, in the beginning, when she would act that way, I believed it was directed at me after I came home from work. I didn't ask, how was you day with the kids, or things like that.
My W told me that she held a lot of things in for my sake as far as our finances, the kids, everything because she felt I was under enough stress at work, especially working appox. 60 hrs a week for an a-hole and putting myself through college. It took me 10 years to graduate and I couldn't have done it without my W.
Well, I have to get ready to talk to my DB coach but I will be back. Please do not stop writing to me and I need to hear what you say no matter how harsh it sounds. Its what I need to grow up.
