That is great new that your H is talking to you and making progress. You are right that the anger has to be put aside. I don't show it at home but I have bottled it up inside. She still yells at me or when she is upset, the foul language starts.
When I put my son on the bus this morning my neighbor was there to put her daughter on the bus and I brought up the topic and of course I didn't say who reported my family to the authorties. But she knows we are having marital problems big time because her and my W talk. I told her I forgave karin's family and have apologized to karin but it does take 2 to make a marriage work and 2 to make it fail. I said I had to forgive, otherwise you remain stuck and get move ahead. I need to forgive more so its truly out of my system. Its hard when you are still be verbally attacked though because she is so angry and told me last night this was the 3rd time. If it was the first time, I would be able to let that slide. I said nothing and I didn't lecture her that if you don't forgive, nor will God forgive you. The bible says something along the lines that you need to do this 7 * 70. I forget the actual quote.
