First thing is “man-up” you are the leader in that house hold. You need to act like it! Your wife is acting out at you because she has to lead and don’t know or can’t do it but she is forced to. When she talks down at you she is looking for your spine! Come back at her! If she says to you your an a-hole, don’t say it back to her & don’t threaten her w/ I could leave or I should leave, come back with, “when your ready to discuss this like adults I’m ready to talk until then I’m not talking about this to you!” Then walk away, cool off don’t go back to apologize to her you did nothing wrong. Wait for her to come back to you and if she doesn’t come back with an attitude of an adult, wait her out & repeat you first statement. She wants to be subservient to you, but you still must respect her, & remember your son is watching, he is learning everything on how to be a man from you! You are showing him how to be a pushover! Read “frank_D”(’s) post
he man-uped and got his family back! & his wife cheated on him! You are not responsible for her happiness and she is not responsible for yours. About your IL’s they need to stay out of it, and tell her about them and stay strong! Do not disrespect her. If her B-IL comes at you with some BS respectfully give it back jokingly, they come at you because they have issues in them selves and putting you down makes them feel better (your wife included!) When you say to them you don’t want to talk about it that adds fuel to the fire. Turn it around ask them the questions put them on their guard, & when they answer, question their rights, ideas, & opinions! Watch how your wife reacts! Your wife’s abuse of your son, when you come correct to her as the man, she will straighten up with him also. Right now she feels like him & you need her to survive! How would you feel if you felt that everyone needs you to survive? (This may not be reality, but that is how she feels!) Go do something fun you & the kids w/ out her! Come back home happy and joking about what you did & see how she reacts. Show her that you can be fun with the kids, after a couple of time of you guys having fun she will want to join you! Ask the kids if they want to include her? If they say yes, come up with the ground rule on her behavior; (mostly on how she should act with you) if she breaks the rules, let her know what the consequences should be!) Mostly if she gives you vinegar, give her back honey, respectfully!!! and she will change, not over night but she will, be patience!
WAW 32 ME 38 D11, S9 & D2 Together 10/96 Married 4/2000 Bomb 4/2006 PA1 9/2006 PA2 11/2006 I now know I want out, With my Kids!!!
