take some free legal adivce (yes I'm a lawyer, but still a nice person) and SHUT UP! When I said not to confess all, I just meant that Not lying isn't the same thing as blurting out the truth.
When I see a fat friend who gained yet more weight, I don't tell her she gained weight--although it would be true. I say nothing. IF I were to be asked in some serious sort of way whether I thought her gained weight was healthy, and somehow the truth would help----then yes, I'd tell the truth. Do you see the difference?
And I noticed that your anger at your W keeps you veering off topic. You go from writhing in your constant worrying about her finding out you called, to blaming her or wanting her to take accountabillity for your own actions/feelings...I am sorry If I missed something on another thread, but you must Separate the issues to deal with them each individually. And yes, for a while it usually is only one person working on the M, until IF and when the other wants it to really work. Most people want to be in love and loving, IF they feel safe to do so...
For now, can you just say some prayers and realize that your worrying does not only NOT help, it actually makes things WORSE....honest to God, you must chill out. Turn things over to God, let him carry this for you for awhile... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
