How about instead of bold faced lying, just say you believe all in all she is a very good mother who tries her best. If she ever goes too far, it still does not amount to "abuse" or things like that...Try being supportive to her and your son. Rather than working on avoiding something negative--focus on doing something positive...and again I ask, how is her hitting your son, abusing you??
Also, switch genders for a minute and imagine you are a woman and she is the husband, hitting one of the kids. Maybe not as hard as he can, but still doing it....I'm a woman, and I gotta say most of us would call it abuse and violence and that no mother should allow it to happen to her children. I wonder, and I mean that, I just wonder, if we are being very fair when we do that...
What would the rest of you say if Rocco was the wife/mother instead of the dad/H? j-
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