Well, I did something I never thought I woud do. Based on the advice of my therapist, group therapist, two priest, I filed a police report against my wife. I was scared to death and I did not want to mention my name or hers. But once I began the discussion, the officer said that I was not allowed to leave until I did.
I requested at this time, I did not want to file a restraining order and the police will only call me on my cell phone. Boy was I scared. I am still shaking from my decision and I hope I did the right thing. The officer told me I did because first of all, she should not slap your son in the face that hard to leave a red mark. She shouldn't slap your son in the face at all. He asked me and I told him I did nothing when my W did this and he agreed with me that I am as guilty as she is.
Secondly, I am tired of being treated so horribly by her and she sees nothing wrong with that behavior. I am living in fear as it is because of her terrible outburst if she has a bad day. I can't and shouldn't have to live like that. The officer asked if I feared for my life. I said no, but I am getting mentally and emotionally abused by her now, and she has hit me in the past.
I hope I did the right thing. What worries me to is now DYFS is going to get involved and I hope they don't contact home number. I told the officer to contact my cell phone only and hopefully DYFS will do the same thing. That is what scares me the most. Will DYFS call me or call the house.
I am so worried that I am having a panic attack right now and I don't have any meds for my panic attack.
The officer told me that DYFS will not remove the kids but will probably remove her. The officer said maybe this is the 1st step to light a fire under her ass to get the help she needs. She could have a chemical inbalance, Bi-Polar or any number of things.
I guess since I made this move, I probably sabatoged my marriage in the process. What do you think?
