Well, my H has said that it is hard to believe it's genuine, the changes in me, but, I believe since I have been consistent with them, he is hopefully beginning to believe it. I have let things go, like when he started throwing wads of paper from magazine ads in the floor, I think to get a rise out of me. I said nothing, but picked them up later when he was out of the room. Same with reminders to do anything around the house, I no longer tell him the obvious, he knows what needs to be done, when he decides to do it is up to him. I am also showing him and teeling him I respect him. I want to be the kind of wife God meant for me to be in the first place. I also told him that unlike in past years, he doesn't have to do anything to help get the house ready for the holidays this year. He always tires himself out with my demands to help do this and that, but not this year. I know that the wake up call I got about ow was the catalyst for this, I have genuinely been convicted in my heart for the sorry way I have treated him over the years. I cannot imagine what it must be like for you to live with this mess. For her family to be in on the cruelty is awful. At what point did she start acting so badly? has it always been so? Has her family always been so bad? I also say that if my H had given me such a precious gift on Valentine's Day, I would treasure it and even though my family calls me the English Teacher, I would never have said anything about the grammar. Actually, I do have something handmade from my H, coupons he cut out of cardboard, and wrote what they were for on them and put them in a little envelope he made. I treasure that, and showed it to him not long ago. He seemed surprised I still had it. how they could laugh at your misfortune while at the funeral of a friend, is beyond me. I think you should sit this crazy woman down and tell her in no uncertain terms, that she is destroying you. Invite the priest over to help if you have to, doesn't she believe in any act of Christian kindness? L
