I don't know what advice to give you to make him see that you won't control your H again. I have to admit, if my W stopped trying to control me, I wouldn't believe its genuine. That's not to say that you would be like that, but its based on my current situation. However, I think you are doing the right thing and I would just respect him for now. That is one thing Husbands need. If your H doesn something wrong, it could be a simple thing like forgetting to fold the laundry, I would let that go. Its not worth it.
My W resents me, for what reason, I don't know. This marriage is not real and there is no love between us. They see nothing wrong with their behavior. My W has never apologized to me for her behavior and actions in the 19 years we are married. I have aplogized to her and have gone to confession (I am a Roman Catholic). The thing I hate the most about my W and her family is their PRIDE. They will never admit that they have done anything wrong because they don't feel they ever do, at least in things done to me.
I remember about 8 years ago my W complained I wasn't Romantic enough. I put something together for Valentines Day, which happened to be a Sunday that year. I bought a small 5 by 7 photo album at Hallmark that had the plastic inserts. My theme was days of the week so on the left side would be the day with 12 lines of poetry. For example, MONDAY meant that my W is the MOTHER of my children, WEDNESDAY meant her WORKING with the children and helping me through college. On the left side of the album was cartoon photos I found on the Internet of a couple that were bears. On Sunday, they were drinking a milk shake at a 1950's Drug Store. Then during the week, say on Tuesday, its their Wedding Day, then another day is the birth of their children. By Saturday, the male bear was walking with a cane and the female had a kerchief on her head and they were walking hand in hand on a sunset beach. So the progression of the album is they aged together as a couple.
I don't remember what day of the week she was reading, but she paused and I thought that I must have written something sentimental that would probably bring a tear to her eye. When she paused I asked her "Its touching isn't it?" She responded with, I will never forget it, "NO, ITS NOT THAT, ITS JUST YOUR GRAMMAR IS POOR." That completely took my heart out. I put my heart and soul into that and that was her only comment. I didn't bring it up then, but did years later and she never, ever aplogized, rather she said, "SO, YOU HAVE POOR SENTENCE STRUCTURE, WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE?
The BITCH doesn't get it. About 16 years ago, my W did have a problem with my sister, and I defended her and my sister and I didn't talk to each for 3 years. Yet my W is a coward who can't defend me. One time, I had severe abdominal pain because I have had plenty of surgeries (I don't have a colan and lost another 32 inches of my intestins due to a bowel obstruction). I had complained about my pain at her sisters engagement party. A few months later, I was at a funeral of a friend of hers who finally died from her 3rd bout with Cancer. At the reception, both her sisters and their husbands, came to my table holding their stomach making believe they were in pain and laughing at me. I couln't find a hole to crawl under and left shortly after to cry in my car and go back to work. I sent them an e-mail telling them how bad they made me feel. And do you know what, they complained to my W this past June about the e-mail and it upset my W. When I told her why I sent it, she gave no reaction because she doesn't give a S%%%.
